“Sometimes painful experience can teach us precious lesson that we didn’t realist we needed to learn.” – Nina Dali
When you choose to leave the past behind, you will walk away from the negative emotions that dominated you there. You will walk away from shame, guilt, bitterness, and anger. You will discover happiness and freedom and finally learn to enjoy your life.
Letting go of the past can be an easy process and can make you unstoppable. Many people believe that it’s difficult because it relies on an identity attachment that you have with the belief of person you are holding onto. Not only that, but sometimes, you struggle to let go because of some benefit you get from that relationship.
Attachment is the root of all suffering. Anything that you are overly attached to can create suffering in your life. Attachment to old beliefs, people, outcomes, or circumstances will create resistance in your life. As long as you remain attached to those things, your inner sense of happiness will be dependent on them.
Becoming detached from people, outcomes, and beliefs is the key to letting go and moving on. Our subconscious will give us all sorts of reasons why we can’t move on, but that just makes it harder on ourselves. When you are able to be happy with any outcome, you are able to live an authentic and free life.
When we don’t feel a sense of desperation, we are able to vibrantly attract what we need into our lives. When we possess that kind of energy, we attract love, abundance, and happiness into our lives.
Being able to let go allows us to live our life more intelligently, efficiently, and effortlessly. We no longer struggle against the tides of life. Holding on to the past will prevent us from reaching out goals.
Holding onto toxic people, memories of a bad relationship, or a job that isn’t making us happy will keep us from finding better versions of those things. There is comfort in the familiarity of where you have been, but there is happiness in the unknown of the future.
Learning how to let go of past relationships can be challenging, but it is always worth it. You may worry that if you leave the person you are with, you will never find someone else. You would rather be unhappy with someone than happy and alone. But in most cases, letting go of toxic relationships will allow you to attract more positive, uplifting people into your life.
Ending a relationship doesn’t have to be a difficult experience with anger and hurt feelings. When you recognize that you are no longer growing together with your partner, you must decide to move on. In creating space for a new, healthy relationship, you must let go of the past.
Letting go is a process. You won’t learn how to do it overnight, especially if you’ve spent your life holding on to things you loved – even if, deep down, you knew they weren’t right for you. Focusing on moving forward and creating a new story for yourself will help you deal with the inevitable pain that comes after a breakup. It will also help you eliminate blame, develop empowering beliefs to live by and move on with an open heart.
Not being able to move on from a past relationship will only hurt you -- it doesn’t affect the other person. Focusing on blame and hurt will keep you dwelling on the negative, but it doesn’t actually have an impact on them. It only keeps you from moving on, connecting with others, and building new relationships.
Remember that refusing to let go will not bring someone you care about back. Continuing to hold on only hurts you and keeps you from fully enjoying life. Embrace living in the moment and understand that uncertainty can be beautiful if you look at it from the right perspective.
The key to letting go of a relationship is facing what has happened, accepting that you can’t change it and then moving on. Once you’re able to move on and appreciate the growth that came from the relationship, better opportunities will present themselves. You will have successfully learned how to let go of someone you love and can begin writing your new story.