“When we experience a deep emotional wound, we never heal until we forgive.” – Nina Dali
In order to truly forgive, we must stop taking ownership of the suffering which was placed upon us. When someone else has hurt us, whether they intended to or not, the most difficult part of changing the situation is learning to forgive.
Sometimes it seems easier to just move on and cut that person out of our lives, rather than forgive them. In certain cases, you may need to let others fall out of your life, but you still won’t be free until you can forgive them. Holding bitterness and resentment in our hearts will only hurt ourselves, not the person we are upset with. Choosing to forgive can allow you to let go of the burden and be free of the past. You will no longer see yourself as a victim of circumstance, and rather as a force for change.
However, forgiveness can be difficult, because you don’t want to condone the actions of the person who hurt you. This is not what forgiveness means. Forgiveness is not telling the person that what they did was okay, but rather telling yourself that their actions need not hold you back. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself, and it communicates to others that we are ready to let go of that pain. In order to do so, we must accept what happened and try to process the complicated emotions surrounding the painful event.
Sometimes, trying to articulate our feelings can help. You can try writing down how you feel, over a period of days or weeks. As we allow ourselves the space to say how we truly feel and ask for what we need to heal, we may start to see a pattern. Suffering begets suffering, and the only way to get out of that cycle is to find compassion for ourselves and those who have hurt us.
Resentment forms a wall around our heart, which prevents us from accepting the love we truly desire. Holding on to our pain restricts our potential success and happiness. Even just mentioning the person’s name can ruin our mood and bring up old feelings of hurt and resentment. To find forgiveness, we must look for the lesson hiding in the experience. Once we do so, forgiveness co
Not only is it crucial to forgive others, but we must also learn to forgive ourselves. Self-forgiveness opens up a world of new possibilities and potential for learning and growing, as we redefine who we are and what we want our future to look like.
Did you know that self-forgiveness is a form of love? Whenever I choose to release negative energy, forgive myself for past mistakes, and raise my spiritual vibrations, I start to feel amazing again.
I am eager to create the life I truly deserve, and I know that forgiveness is a part of that journey. Deep down, we are all good, loving people. Yes we all live with things we have said or done that we struggle to forgive ourselves for.
Regardless of how guilty or ashamed we feel about our past choices, we must eventually realize that our experiences can awaken us to our true self and our deeper life purpose.
The unpleasant emotions that lie within us will remain the same if we don't address them. A lack of forgiveness in our hearts will make us continually feel the same way - worthless and ashamed of ourselves. We will continue to create painful situations in the present until we realize that we must forgive ourselves and move on with our lives.
I remember being on the phone once with my mom, telling her that I wished I could apologize to everyone I had ever treated poorly. I was aware that I had made mistakes which hurt people, due to my impulsive, arrogant, and disrespectful nature. I even talked to my mentor, telling him that I would be happier if those people knew I hadn't meant to hurt them. He told me, "Nina, you did what you knew was best at the time."
I wasn’t showing up in my life as 100% me, because I was convinced that people would judge me. I worried that they would remember the times when I was not my best, and assume I hadn’t changed. But then I try to remember that cute little girl inside me, and how innocent and friendly she was. That's my spirit. That's who I truly am.
I believe that we need to forgive ourselves for the things in our past that cause us to feel shame, guilt, anger, or regret. It is the only way to find lasting inner peace and happiness. Nobody can force you to be happy, in the same way no one can force you to be angry. Happiness comes within, and it’s important to recognize that only you can control how happy you are in this life.
Happiness does not come automatically. It depends on us alone. One cannot become happy overnight, but with patient effort, day by day. Happiness is constructed, and that requires effort and time. In order to become happy, we have to learn how to change ourselves. Happiness is experiencing every moment with love, passion, and gratitude. Our happiness is our responsibilities. Choose happiness that comes from within, and you will be happy forever.
Being unhappy and unfulfilled is a choice. It’s our choice. Sadly, I see so many people that I care for around me who are suffering. They are stuck. They don’t know how to escape from their situation. I don’t blame them. I have been there. I was so afraid to walk away and leave a comfortable place. Fear won over self-love and self-respect.
If you are feeling unhappy and you want to change things in your life, you need to take action. Now. Tomorrow might be too late. I know change can be uncomfortable, but choosing to be unhappy and unfulfilled instead of taking the risk to be happy shouldn’t be an option.
I am telling you from my own experience. You will regret every single day you were not happy. It’s your choice. But there is always a way out. Trust me.
